As women we must see it as an honor to be ambassadors of the Feminine Force! Let's passionately play full out with this amazing experience we call WOMAN! It's about boldly expressing our feminine artistry in our own unique way. There is only one of you on the planet! Be inspired to delve deeper into your creativity and express your vitality, radiance, sensuality, and any state of being!

Many women manufacture their beauty out of fear. Do you believe that you have to be the sexiest, freakiest, thinnest, prettiest, smartest, the most domestic to attract and keep  a man him?  Or perhaps you believe that men can never be satisfied by one woman and allow him to have "others" on the side. So many magazines are filled with "How to Keep A Man" or "Drive him crazy in Bed" articles that keep us believing that we are inadequate!! Who benefits from us feeling inadequate and unworthy?

Ladies, we have taken the blue pill and subsequently dis-empowered ourselves and the beauty of womanhood. When we're motivated out of fear.... we experience fear!! However when we get inspired to sensually sway our orgasmic swagger onto the planet out of GRATITUDE, then we will unleash our organic beauty. And Yes, men will be in a perpetual state of AWE! It is in our intentions that will determine the quality of fruit of our actions.

You are more than enough!  We are more than enough! There's no need to compete with your sisters! Take a tiny or quantum step each day to renew your essence: sensual, fierce, loving, nurturing & mysterious. 

It’s always a thrilling experience speaking with Sex Expert Walter Beckley. In this brief interview, we receive a man’s insight into a woman’s sexuality/sensuality. We discuss the importance of sexual skills (not what we may read in Cosmopolitan), confidence and the willingness to open up to our lovers in a deep and exquisite way.

Spirit Halima: I hear many men complain about the looseness of a woman’s vagina all the time. Is it the tightness of the yoni(vagina) or the size of the man’s penis that makes the difference?

Walter Beckely: This is not a case of… If it don’t fit, don’t force it! If the vagina is too loose from child birthing or from taking on really large penises,the woman may need to learn how to make her vagina tighter, if she really loves and wants to feel more from her man. Next the man needs to learn to strengthen his erection and increase his sexual stamina.

Spirit Halima: Some gynecologists are now recommending Vaginal Reconstructive/Rejuvenation Surgery to improve the tightness of the vagina. What are you thoughts?

Walter Beckley: Unnecessary surgeries can often time lead to more problems than you can shake a stick at! Why risk your life and health when you can take pleasure at learning to retighten your vagina through various exercises, such as the Embracing The Jade Egg Exercises.

Spirit Halima: Also, there are many tools/pills that are supposed to increase penis size/width. What are your thoughts about these methods?

Walter Beckley: Having a larger sexual penis does not mean better sexual performance. Men have been able to get a lot more mileage or bang for their buck by simply learning to command their sexual organ.

Spirit Halima: How important is it for a man for a woman to have a tight yoni and pussy control? Is it a deal breaker if your woman doesn’t have these sexual skills?

Walter Beckley: Most women don’t have PC! PC also indicatesa firm vagina although a tight vagina is not an indication of PC. Most men have never been with a woman that possess these skills, so as long as the woman can or pretend to be freaky the man will never stop because of the sex, if it is good. The deal breaker is simply there is no connection to his heart and no connection from his heart to yours.  

PC will remind him of how good you can make it feel however get in touch with your heart and he will follow you anywhere.

Spirit Halima: In dealing with lots of women, I find they are uncomfortable learning about Tantra, Kama Sutra and utilizing tools like the Jade Egg to enhance sexual skills. Have you found this to be true in your work?

Walter Beckley: Yes, the norm is to turn the lights out and have sex in the dark. Women have been given the short end of the stick when it comes to sex, so it may seem. Let me explain: 1. When you have sex, your sexual experience may be short lived, depending on your sexual partner. He ejaculates within a few minutes and you may have been on the verge of just getting excited.

2. The female ends up with an unwanted pregnancy.

3. 18 years or more of raising a child “maybe” on her own

Why? Because both men and women have played in this playground of sexual secrets and ignorance for far too long. To overcome societies brutal short comes and fears, a massive new movement which offers proper adult sexual education and training for both men and women will be the only way to defeat sexual ignorance and fear.

Spirit Halima: What’s the difference between making love with a woman who has tight sexual skills and those who don’t?

Walter Beckley: Woman “A” thinks she is good, and makes her man work physically, mentally and emotional and neither are truly satisfied.

While Woman “B” posses the sexual skills and training that brings out her natural sensual erotic essences and both she and her partner become lost in the art of love making

Woman “A” thinks she looks good, she mimic’s things she has seen in magazines, videos and TV , while Woman “B” understands her own internal and external beauty, she is the woman that “A” is trying to be.

Spirit Halima: How important is it for you (men) for a woman to be confident outside and inside of the bedroom?

Walter Beckley: Confidence may not necessarily be the operative word, confidence for most men can be scary, meaning that she has been around. I believe men seek trust, vulnerability, and honesty, men desire to be seen and known. Basically, a man unknowingly seeks all of the things he can’t seem to give. Most men are bankrupt emotional and that is why sex is the number one way to get a man.

Spirit Halima: If a woman lacks confidence, how would you recommend her developing confidence?

Walter Beckley: Mentor under other women and men. Find someone that you can trust that you can go to and talk about sex, men, any and everything under the sun.

Spirit Halima: Does a man want to be seduced by his woman? Recommend some ideas for the ladies…

Walter Beckley: The art of seduction is about trust and responsibility.

Make sure that you are not trying to seduce him in order to get a new ___ or for him to do ____.  If he see’s through your game he will resent you for it, and use it against you later.

You should seduce him as if he is the missing part of your soul and you are simply guiding him deeper into your soul which is his soul. Seduction blurs the lines of what a person thinks and feels into the other person’sthoughts, feelings or ideals.

Tip #1. This works on old relationships as well as new ones: When close, place your left or non-dominate hand on his shoulder, near his neck and chest almost pulling him in however your arm can keep him away. Now look into his eyes and talk to him, this teaches him how to be close and intimate with no kissing only anticipation. Later when he understands that this is how the two of you communicate up close and personal you can move your hand up and place it behind his neck. Gently stroking his neck with your fingers along the lower part of his head, this relaxes him and opens him to listen. He will feel as if everything is fine and this will increase his desire to listen to you.

Spirit Halima: Men say that they want their women to keep themselves together, keeping fit and looking good. What should women really know about how men think about them getting fat and dumpy?

Walter Beckley: Get naked and stand in front of the mirror. If you love the way you look then keep on going with your bad self! However if you look and bend over and your stomach drops down extending past your breast or you look a few months pregnant… or if you’re in a relationship, don’t ask your partner if you think my butt is too big, instead let him know that your thinking about working out or losing some weight, are you ok with me being smaller or slimmer, would you be ok with my butt, legs, breast and stomach if they were smaller? Get fit Today, stopping putting your health on hold!

Walter Beckley is a noted teacher of Taoist and TantricSexology and is the author of “9 Steps to Building Your Sexual Stamina” www.buildingyoursexualstamina.com